Comments on Planet Hausfrau: Motherhood

No, I didn't post it for reassurance. It was d...

2012-02-04T23:02:20.172-05:00

No, I didn't post it for reassurance. It was definitely more of an owning up to how I feel thing. Also I'm not sure what is going on with the comments, you are about the 5th person who has posted multiple comments as though it's not going through only it really went through. Blogger.

I'm with you, Audrey. You are so amazingly tal...

2012-02-04T21:25:53.878-05:00

I'm with you, Audrey. You are so amazingly talented and so intelligent and great, but nobody is a perfect mother. Of course you aren't to blame. You would tell me the same:

PPD was not your fault, nor was it something you could control.
The fact that you cried demonstrates your love for your son.
Your feelings of guilt are the feelings every mother has; hindsight is

I think it must be extra hard to have a typically ...

2012-02-03T11:58:44.416-05:00

I think it must be extra hard to have a typically developing child and one that has delays. I have two with delays and with similar outward issues that stem from very different internal issues. I think all parents have some level of guilt over something they have done or something they did not do. I think it is pretty normal to feel that way actually. What we feel guilty about is just

Audrey, It's not your fault.

2012-02-02T15:13:29.828-05:00

Audrey,

It's not your fault.

I'll be honest, it was easier to pretend I had...

2012-02-02T14:29:17.386-05:00

I'll be honest, it was easier to pretend I had no guilt before Delilah came along. But even then I was aware of feeling like the odd-mom-out from time to time. Like when he had his frenulum snipped and he cried and cried and bled and the PED told me I could talk or sing to him and I just sat there frozen with him in my arms and tears rolling down my face because I didn't know what to say

Oh, Audrey. This has me sobbing. Because it woul...

2012-02-02T13:44:21.146-05:00

Oh, Audrey. This has me sobbing. Because it would be so easy for me to tell you that NO, you are in no way, shape, or form responsible (and in your heart, I hope to goddess that you know that to be true).

But I ask myself the same horrible questions almost every, single day. Is he not affectionate because I felt detached from him as an infant? Does he not relate to people because

xoxo

2012-02-02T12:51:54.414-05:00

xoxo